hands cuffedAre you experiencing abuse in a relationship,
or are you concerned that someone you know may be experiencing abuse?

This guide will connect you with organizations and resources that can support you in seeking help and safety for yourself and your loved ones. 



Through These Doors

24/7 Helpline: 1-800-537-6066

Through These Doors is Cumberland County’s domestic violence resource center. TTD’s range of free services include a 24/7 confidential Helpline, emergency shelter, court advocacy program, and support groups. Interpreters are available to make the Helpline and other services accessible for non-English speakers. 

  • Note: In response to the COVID-19 crisis, Through These Doors is currently focusing on providing support through the Helpline, while minimizing in-person advocacy as much as possible. The emergency shelter is following Maine’s Stay Healthy at Home guidelines, and support groups have been suspended until further notice.  


Sexual Assault Response Services of Southern Maine

24/7 Sexual Assault Helpline: 1-800-871-7741

Online Chat (Available Monday-Friday, 8am-11pm) 

Sexual Assault Response Services of Southern Maine provides advocacy services and support to those affected by sexual violence or harassment in York and Cumberland Counties. The organizations offerings include its confidential helpline, hospital and police station accompaniments, court accompaniments, Sexual Assault Response Team advocacy, support groups, and help for child victims of sexual abuse through the Child Advocacy Center of York County. Interpreters are available to make services accessible for non-English speakers. 

  • Note: In response to the COVID-19 crisis, SARSSM has reduced its in-person advocacy services and is not offering hospital or police station accompaniments at this time. Advocates are available to provide phone support during hospital visits, as well as follow-up support. All support groups, community outreach, and in-person services through the Child Advocacy Center of York County have been suspended until further notice.   



Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence

Statewide Domestic Abuse Helpline: 1-866-834-HELP (4357)

Helpline for the Hearing Impaired: 1-800-437-1220

The Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence’s Statewide Helpline connects Mainers affected by domestic abuse, stalking, dating violence, elder abuse, and sexual exploitation to advocates at MCEDV’s nine member organizations throughout the state of Maine. MCEDV’s Helpline can also help connect callers with advocacy services specifically tailored for Maine’s tribal communities. 



National Domestic Violence Hotline

24/7 Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) 

Hotline for the Hearing Impaired: 1-800-787-3224

Live Chat Service, in English and Spanish 

The National Domestic Violence Hotline offers 24/7 free, confidential advocacy and support through its hotline and online chat services. Expert advocates are available to talk to anyone experiencing abuse, seeking resources or information for themselves or others, or concerned about their relationship. Support is available in more than 200 languages, as well as for the hearing impaired. The NDVH website is also a valuable resource for those seeking information about abuse, dating violence, safety planning, and healthy relationships. 


Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) 

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) 

Online Hotline Live Chat, in English and Spanish 

RAINN provides support for those affected by sexual violence 24/7, 365 days a year through its National Sexual Assault Hotline and Online Hotline live chat services. RAINN’s website offers a wealth of information about sexual violence and its effects, as well as safety planning, consent, and sexual violence prevention. 



24/7 Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 

Hotline for the Hearing Impaired: 1-866-331-8453 

Text LOVEIS to 22522

Online Live Chat 

A project of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, loveisrespect.org supports young people affected by dating violence and unhealthy relationships through its hotline, texting and online chat services. The website is a great source for teen-friendly information about dating, different forms of abuse, healthy relationships, safety planning, self-care, and helping loved ones who may be experiencing violence. 

StrongHearts Native Helpline 

Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 (available daily, 7am-10pm CT) 

The StrongHearts Native Helpline provides culturally sensitive support for Native Americans experiencing abuse and dating violence through peer support and advocacy, crisis intervention, personalized safety planning, and referrals to Native or Tribal-based domestic violence service providers. 

  • Note: As a result of COVID-19 social distancing protocols, fewer than usual advocates are currently staffing the StrongHearts office. Callers may experience extended wait times due to these limitations. 


National Network to End Domestic Violence

The National Network to End Domestic Violence website provides resources and information on many aspects of domestic violence, including financial abuse and technology safety. NNEDV also runs WomensLaw.org, offering plain-language legal information for those affected by domestic violence. 



DomesticShelters.org makes it easy to find domestic violence shelters and services in your area. The website also features an extensive collection of articles, videos, and other resources for those seeking information about abuse and sexual violence. 


Sanctuary for Families, “Safety Planning—Reducing the Risk of Harm During COVID-19” 

Futures Without Violence, “Information on COVID-19 for Survivors, Communities, and DV/SA Programs” 

National Network to End Domestic Violence, “Tips for Helping a Friend Experiencing Domestic Abuse During COVID-19” 

Workplaces Respond to Domestic & Sexual Violence, “Supporting Workers Experiencing Domestic & Sexual Violence During the COVID-19 Pandemic” 

WomensLaw, “Frequently Asked Questions Involving Courts and COVID-19” 



For Adult Readers 

Understanding Abuse & Getting Help

Lundy Bancroft, Should I Stay or Should I Go? 

  • Listen to the audiobook through Cloud Library

Lundy Bancroft, When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse 

  • Listen to the audiobook through Cloud Library

Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Susan Brewster, Helping Her Get Free: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women

Meg Kennedy Dugan, It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship 

Patricia Evans, The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond

  • Listen to the audiobook through Cloud Library

David Island, Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them: Battered Gay Men and Domestic Violence 

Kerry Lobel, Naming the Violence: Speaking Out About Lesbian Battering

Carrie Martell, Bonnie Clairmont, & Sarah Deer, eds., Sharing Our Stories of Survival: Native Women Surviving Violence

Ginny NiCarthy, Getting Free: You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life

  • Read the ebook through Cloud Library 

Hillary Potter, Battle Cries: Black Women and Intimate Partner Abuse 

Karen Wilson, When Violence Begins at Home: A Comprehensive Guide to Understanding and Ending Domestic Abuse

Survivor Stories 

Carmen Maria Machado, In the Dream House: A Memoir 

Tanya Selvaratnam, Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence 

Kelly Sundberg, Goodbye Sweet Girl: A Story of Domestic Violence and Survival 


For Teens


Barrie Levy, In Love and Danger: A Teen’s Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships 

Deanna Pledge, When Something Feels Wrong: A Survival Guide About Abuse for Young People 


Dating Violence in Fiction 

Sarah Dessen, Dreamland

After her older sister runs away, sixteen-year-old Caitlin decides that she needs to make a major change in her own life and begins dating rebellious Rogerson, a magnetic but abusive “bad boy.” 

Alex Finn, Breathing Underwater 

Sent to counseling for hitting his girlfriend, Caitlin, and ordered to keep a journal, sixteen-year-old Nick recounts his relationship with Caitlin, examines his controlling behavior and anger, and describes living with his abusive father. 

Patrick Jones, Things Change

Sixteen-year-old Johanna, one of the best students in her class, develops a passionate attachment for troubled seventeen-year-old Paul and finds her plans for the future changing in unexpected ways. 

S.M. Parker, The Girl Who Fell 

When a new boy in school, Alec, sweeps Zephyr off her feet, their passionate romance takes a dangerous and possessive turn when Alec begins manipulating Zephyr. 

Julie Anne Peters, Rage: A Love Story

Soon after Johanna begins dating her long-time crush, Reeve, the relationship becomes toxic as Reeve and her twin brother launch an attack upon Johanna’s self-esteem, friendships, and family bonds. 

Anica Mrose Rissi, Always Forever Maybe 

High school senior Bee falls in love with Aiden, who seems perfect for her until his possessiveness leads to abuse.